Been mulling the wise post over at St. Emlyns about little white lies. http://stemlynsblog.org/2012/09/little-white-lies-in-the-resus-room/
Then was having a discussion with a local vet about breaking bad news. He told me about his favourite method which he calls the multi-staged death.
So he will often get a cat/dog that has been hit by a car, usually arrive with a distraught owner who asks for him to do everything possible to save them. Firstly he explains its touch and go and that they should say their goodbyes and go home. Then he does what he can for the critter.
If it goes badly and they don’t survive or if the injuries are simply unsurvivable he initiates the multi stage death protocol. Sometimes he will do this after the animal has passed away.
(Stage one) First his nurse calls to tell them it’s not looking good. This gives them an early warning about the likely outcome.
(Stage two) A short while later he calls to tell them he’s going to take their pet to theatre and he will “Do what he can” further preparation of owner.
(Stage Three) Then finally he calls back and breaks the bad news that despite all the best efforts the injuries were not survivable. Gives closure, they feel all that could have been done has.
He swears by it as being a great way to prepare the owners for the likely outcome and is much better than the “Will call you when its done, either way” approach of his practice partner.
Now im not advocating this approach for patients but found it an interesting approach. Thoughts?